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Category Archive for: ‘Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)’

Mindfulness: Take Your Eyes Off The Clock

Take Your Eyes Off The Clock We have a set of trees in the yard with flowers whose bloom always sneaks up on us. By mid-August, the side of the yard is covered in the pink and purple and blue flowers stretching high and low, from one end of the fence to the other. It’s always been a symbol to …

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Get Rid of It

My father, while tampering and eventually removing loose wires from the stove, broke the thermometer.  With a shrug, he said, “If you want to know what something does, get rid of it.” We laughed—my dad, of course, the hardest, but the words stuck with me. He’s right. Truth often falls victim to cliché, but it doesn’t make it less true. …

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“I hope you have a daughter just like you someday!”

“I hope you have a daughter just like you someday!”  I’m not sure how many times I heard those words over the course of my childhood and teen years. Fast forward a lot of years. I now have that daughter; but she is nothing like me. And it’s hard. My daughter is shy, uninterested in sports, has difficulty speaking up for herself, …

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“Do 25% of the work, get 25% of the results.”

Many years ago, I was a single young woman with a busy career and lots of fun hobbies. One of those hobbies resulted in a broken foot that required months of healing. After two months, the healing slowed and my orthopedic doctor told me that surgery may be required. BUT, he said, let’s try physical therapy first.  I was assigned …

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Try Validation For a Change

Even the best parents struggle with trying to figure out what to do when their children or adolescents have intense emotions and are out of control about something that seems small.  The one skill I teach and promote over and over to help is VALIDATION. Why? Because it is an agent of change. Frequently, the mention of validating evokes feelings …

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Indifference: The Journey to Inspiration

Dialectical Behavior Therapy – States of Mind Am I really indifferent?  Or is it lack of energy?  Maybe it is lack of motivation?  I know I want better, but taking any steps seems so daunting.  Just thinking of taking steps quickly converts to thoughts of what difference does it make, I’m just going through the motions. My Reasonable Mind says, …

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Cutting to Cope: Follow up Q & A

March is Self Injury Awareness Month Last November Fox 17 aired a segment on Self Injury.  I am following up on that interview by trying to increase awareness and education about self injury by answering some common questions.  Later this month I will share a more detailed interview with the young woman. Please be aware, some of the content of the …

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Self Injury Awareness Day, March 1, 2013

She has everything going for her.  Why would she cut herself?  You are not alone is wondering why.  It is a question many parents and friends ask.  The answer is not as simple as some would assume.  It is not because she just wants attention, or she just wants to manipulate you.  The reasons someone self injures are more complicated that …

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What Is Going On Inside That Head of Yours?

Do your wonder if your teen’s behavior is normal, or if maybe you are going crazy? Blame it on the brain. Normal brain development in teens can leave parents confused, daze, and downright frustrated. Patience. Help is on the way… you only have to wait until mid 20’s.

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