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Category Archive for: ‘Self-Improvement’

“Do 25% of the work, get 25% of the results.”

Many years ago, I was a single young woman with a busy career and lots of fun hobbies. One of those hobbies resulted in a broken foot that required months of healing. After two months, the healing slowed and my orthopedic doctor told me that surgery may be required. BUT, he said, let’s try physical therapy first.  I was assigned …

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Adolescent’s and New Year’s Resolutions

Adolescents make resolutions too. When is the last time you asked what they wish to do differently in the new year? Many of our clients wish to be more in control of their emotions, but have a fear of rejection, of not being good enough, of not doing it right, of losing control… In The Good Dinosaur, Arlo’s dad told …

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Thursday Evening Tryst

Hope and Fear walked to the Corner Bistro where they spent most Thursday evenings. They’d come sixteen minutes before closing time. Right on the dot. Hope would stroll through first, hands in its pockets, trying to be nonchalant, and Fear would always follow a calculated thirty three seconds later. Every night I bused tables and watched the two walk to …

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Indifference: The Journey to Inspiration

Dialectical Behavior Therapy – States of Mind Am I really indifferent?  Or is it lack of energy?  Maybe it is lack of motivation?  I know I want better, but taking any steps seems so daunting.  Just thinking of taking steps quickly converts to thoughts of what difference does it make, I’m just going through the motions. My Reasonable Mind says, …

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Is What You Wear a Reflection of Your Self Esteem?

Body Image and Self Esteem   It is probably not a big newsflash to read that girls who are teased about their physical appearance in childhood are negatively impacted as adolescents and adult women.  But did you realize even friendly banter or teasing by parents can impact how girls perceive their bodies into adulthood?  It is also probably not a newsflash to …

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If Your Relationship Is Important To You, Invest In Couples Communication Skills

When you have a relationship and it is important to you, you realize you must invest in it.  When relationships are not maintained, they dissolve. Wether that relationship is in dating, in engagement, or in marriage, communication is important.  Investing now can provide you with years of  returns. Investing in your relationship is no different from hobbies, houses, cars, education, vacations, or stock …

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You May Say I’m A Dreamer

But, I’m not the only one.  I am so thankful I am not the only one.  Art Prize is going on in Grand Rapids, MI and clearly there are a lot of dreamers that create art and maybe more dreamers who enjoy art.  This year there are two artists that lift my spirits.  Interesting to me is the fact that …

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Apologies and Forgiveness – Part 2 of 3

So you have apologized, but it was not accepted by the individual.  Now what you ask?  Well, you have a few options.  One, you can walk away and think, “I did my part and I do not need to do anymore.  Clearly he/she (the injured person) has got issues.  I am not going to stand here and beg.”   Two, you …

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Five Love Languages: What’s All the Hype?

 If you have read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, then you know why it is important to know how to show those you love that they are loved in a way that is meaningful to them. For example, Suzie’s love language is Acts of Service.  That means she feels most loved by things friends and family do for …

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Boundary or Wall?

Sometimes people get so tired of being hurt, taken advantage of, abused, misused, mistreated, you name it, that they are forced to do something different.  However, that something different is just the other side of the same leaf.  In other words, it is finding a new way to do the same thing. If you are tired of being a door mat, …

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