Certified Gottman Therapists™
Certified Gottman Therapists are trained to work with individuals, children and/or families on many issues including anxiety, depression, addictions, trauma, abuse and domestic violence, multi-cultural issues, and blended families, among others.
Prior to intensive training with Drs. John and Julie Gottman, Certified Gottman Therapists complete a graduate degree in Psychology or a related field and were trained to provide therapy to individuals, families, children and/or adolescents as well as to couples.
All Certified Gottman Therapists have completed a basic training program, an Advanced Study seminar and a Gottman Certification Training program that includes individual and/or group consultation with a Certified Gottman Consultant.
(Only Certified Gottman Therapists may use the title Gottman Therapist.)
What is Gottman Method Couples Therapy?
Gottman Method Couples Therapy combines Dr. John Gottman’s 35 years of research on couples’ relationships with Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman’s more than 30 years of clinical practice. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Intervention strategies are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s three decades of research with more than 3,000 couples. This research shows us what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed out of this research to help couples:
- Increase respect, affection, and closeness
- Break through and resolve conflict when you feel stuck
- Generate greater understanding between you and your partner
- Keep conflict discussions calm
- Maintain improvements in your relationship
Research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s dreams. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have shown how couples can accomplish this by paying attention to what they call the Sound Relationship House, or the seven components of healthy coupleships.
The Gottman Theory For Making Relationships Work
- Build Love Maps: How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her worries, stresses, joys, and dreams?
- Share Fondness and Admiration: The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen Fondness and Admiration, express appreciation and respect.)
- Turn Towards: State your needs, be aware of bids and turn towards them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship.
- The Positive Perspective: The presence of positive affect in problem-solving discussions and the success of repair attempts.
- Manage Conflict: We use the term “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict because relationship conflict is natural and it has functional, positive aspects. For example, it helps us learn how to better love and understand our partners, deal with change, and renew courtship over time. We try to manage but not eliminate conflict. Understand the critical difference in handling a) perpetual problems and b) solvable problems.
- Make Life Dreams Come True: Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her dreams, values, convictions and aspirations.
- Create Shared Meaning: Finally, we come to the attic, where our important dreams, narrative, and metaphors about our relationship and family find a home.
Content of this page is directly from Gottman Relationship Institute webpage