Copyright © 2000—2009 by Dr. John M. Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman.
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Accepting Influence
Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble. Printer Friendly
WHEN WE DISCUSS OUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES:
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TRUE FALSE
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| 1. I find that I am really interested in my partner’s opinion on our basic issues. |
m |
m |
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| 2. I usually learn a lot from my partner even when we disagree. |
m |
m |
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| 3. I want my partner to feel that what he or she says really counts with me. |
m |
m |
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| 4. I generally want my partner to feel influential in this relationship. |
m |
m |
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| 5. I can listen to my partner, but only up to a point. |
m |
m |
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| 6. My partner has a lot of basic common sense. |
m |
m |
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| 7. I try to communicate respect even during our disagreements. |
m |
m |
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| 8. I don’t keep trying to convince my partner so that I will eventually win out. |
m |
m |
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| 9. I don’t reject my partner’s opinions out of hand. |
m |
m |
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| 10. My partner is rational enough to take seriously when we discuss our issues. |
m |
m |
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| 11. I believe in lots of give and take in our discussions. |
m |
m |
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| 12. I am very persuasive, but don’t usually try to win arguments with my partner. |
m |
m |
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| 13. I feel important in our decisions. |
m |
m |
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| 14. My partner usually has good ideas. |
m |
m |
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| 15. My partner is basically a great help as a problem-solver. |
m |
m |
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| 16. I try to listen respectfully even when I disagree. |
m |
m |
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| 17. My ideas for solutions are not better than my partner’s. |
m |
m |
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| 18. I can usually find something to agree with in my partner’s position. |
m |
m |
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| 19. My partner is not usually too emotional. |
m |
m |
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| 20. I am the not one who needs to make the major decisions in this relationship. |
m |
m |
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